What is love?

“What is love to you?” My aunt questioned me.

I was blank. I couldn’t think of anything. My mind was in total silence. What is love to me? I silently question myself again.I’ve written a post about how I feel about love previously but here I am sitting down on my bed, thinking to myself.

What is love again? How does lovefeel like?

Living in the 21st century, there are so many sayings, quotes & standards of how love is. Or even how love should be. Love can come in many forms such as love in the things we do, the love we have for our family, the love towards food, love towards animals or the love of life etc. The most common love we want to find is the love connection with a spouse/ partner.

When it comes to loving someone, we’ve so many ideas & expectations of how love should be. The love we thought are real may not be what we think love is. There are two types of love – Ego vs Selfless love. The ego love is the one thinking how much the other half CAN GIVE ME. It’s a very toxic & possessive low energy. Whereas the selfless love is more of how much I CAN GIVE to my loved one. This kind of selfless love can be given to others only when we know how to truly love ourselves.( Full story here)

Coming back to the question, what is love then?

Everyone has their own definition of love because each of us has our individual perspective & journey of life.We can define love in many ways but each love experience changes with the next & it might not be the same definition we’ve previously define it.

Love can be so many things.

Love is respecting:

Respect an individual for who they are without trying to change them. Even though they might not fit into our expectations.

Love is selfless:

Providing our loved ones as much as possible with no expectations in return.

Love is free:

let them be who they want to be.

Love is caring.

Love is kind.

Love is genuine.

Love is fun

Love is light.

Love is just love.

Love is everything.

I can put a definition of love based on my previous experience but I decided not to. And why?

With that I wrote a poem :

For love is a feeling;

A feeling that will come & go.

It changes with each experience;

For every love experience is different & unique, I cannot

guarantee the next love will be the same.

Therefore in that moment of love where my heartbeats for, I feel everything of it & seize the moment.

For it will come & go, I’ll never know when will my heartbeats for it again.

So I love fearlessly & selflessly.

Note to reader:

Is there anyone you want to express your love to?

If yes, have you?
If no, what is it that is stopping you?

For you don’t know when your heart will beat again for the person you’re in love with, so live in the moment. All you have is now.

Wishing you a lovely Valentine’s Day!


  1. Brian on February 15, 2018 at 1:47 am


  2. […] We often find ourselves trying to find love from others. In fact, the love we need lies within ourselves. The word love has been misused and redefined in many ways. True love, in fact, it is just love. There’s no hatred, judgment, possession nor anger or jealousy. What makes love painful is because of our ego. Sometimes we find ourselves wanting to love but is our love based on our self-lessness or egoistic self? […]

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